There is a world of a difference between a counselor and a coach. I have a professional background in both and feel uniquely qualified to write this article.A counselor’s primary aim is to zero in on the clients psychological or emotional state in order to bring the client into a state of being whole. Counselors focus in on what is wrong with the client in order to fix it.
A coach has an entirely different focus. Our orientation is more towards the future instead of the past. The agenda is to bring the client to a place of setting goals and taking action. Coaching is a very growth oriented and the relationship between the client and coach stay focused upon this.
Coaches work to bring the client into a place of discovery; consequently, they usually do not give much advice or lead with clear suggestions. An effective coach will help their client take ownership for the ideas they come up with and the action required to achieve results.
Is counseling a bad thing? I think counseling and coaching have their own unique place. When the need of the client is kept in the forefront, what method is required will become obvious. As a general rule, counselors work with people who have issues that they can’t seem to get on top of which are negatively affecting them. Coaches generally work with people who are very oriented towards their future and who are seeking help to accomplish their goals.
There are many different types of coaching but the kinds that I specialize in are life-forming and leadership. I have taken extensive training in both and received certification for completing the required training.
Life-forming coaching is probably the closest to counseling without it actually being counseling. In this approach it is not unusual for the coach to help the client key in on any issues that might be hindering their leadership effectiveness. The difference between the life-forming coach and the counselor is what they do next.
The coach will immediately help the client to take responsibility for any wrong actions and help them to go forward. The counselor on the other hand, will continue probing beyond this point in order to diagnose the problem for treatment.
If you desire to clarify your life’s purpose so you can passionately pursue it, I suggest you engage a coach. If you want to take your career or business to the next level but you seem stuck, I suggest you spend time with a coach. But if you have deep emotional issues related to a present or past experience then coaching probably is not what you need at this time.








Expediency, Penn State and Joe Paterno
We live in a culture where the end frequently is seen to justify the means. As I write this post Joe Paterno, one of the most successful college football coaches in history, has just been fired. His dismissal is related to an apparent cover up of former defensive coordinator Jerry Sandusky’s possible involvement in child molestation while he served at Penn State. He was a very good defensive coordinator and Penn State enjoyed success during his employment. It should be noted that Joe Paterno is not charged with any crime but the trustee’s of the university felt strong enough about this error in judgment to dismiss not only Paterno but Graham Spanier, the current president of the school.
Now before you feel too sorry for the 84 year old Paterno, take note of the apparent fact, that one of the assistant coaches went to Joe Paterno to report that Sandusky was in the shower with a 10 year old boy. This whole incident in my opinion is a prime example of a culture steeped in expediency. This situation revolves around winning football games but I ask, at what cost?
Turning attention away from Joe Paterno and Penn State let me ask all of us a personal question. How often do we make decisions totally based upon our own self interest? Our prayer should be God help us all.
There was rioting in Happy Valley last night. From my experience with Penn State many of the participants were under the influence of booze or other substances. This does not excuse the fact that the going concern was probably not to change coaches during a winning season. Earlier today I heard two elderly women talking about this disturbance and one of them said, “It is just football for God’s sake”. For God’s sake indeed, I wonder how He feels about all of this. I know the Lord is not in favor of expediency at all cost. We all could stand some heart-felt soul searching to see how deeply we are infected with this ungodly attitude.